FR: Santa Monica @ the SPACE

Friday 6/8/06

My AFC buddy, K, invites me to go to Santa Monica with him. This place called the Space. I was down to go cause I needed to get out more to sarge. K knows about the community, but isn't really active. We get to hollywood area, and we're so going in the wrong direction of where we ought to be. Whatevers. We arrive pretty late....around midnight. A cover band is playing. I like the music, cause it was eighties and nineties stuff. K doesn't know jack about the type of music. We come in and we see our friend that invited K. We go talk to her and she's really a UGasian. She's dressed in a red polo shirt, jeans, and puma sneakers. Really tom boyish. UGasian introduces me to her friend HBasian4or5? I don't know she's whatevers. K - afc that he is...isn't a great wingman. He doesn't even introduce me to everyone. So I make my introductions. I meet birthday guy, girl friend of HBasian4or5. They're cool I guess, so they're dancing, and songs come up and I get a little wild cause its more fun that way. The girls start laughing cause I was so into it I guess. I had a long island. NOT REALLY able to get a good buzz. So I faked it. Gave myself Super HIGH ENERGY. There was at least one girl that was hot enough to say she was an HB. She was standing next to me and obviously part of the group. I look at her and she looks at me..I give her the "who the hell are you look"...we stare each other down...I give a smirk...and give my name. I'll call her HBasian8. Don't know whether the guy she was with was her bf or not. She has a nose ring and can dance. Its sexy.
Nothing really happened...the group just danced..and I just danced alongside the group. Pretty pathetic. But it doesn't phase me. After it was over around 2 - we went outside to chit chat.
As K and I were talking with HBasian4or5, UGasian, and girl friend of HBasian4or5 - I make the group laugh. Owning the conversation - HBasian8 comes next to me and just stands there and looks at everyone and me.

DS: Just say yes and nod..that's all you have to do.
HBasian8: MMmnm..hmm..
HBasian8: So how do you know each other (pointing to K)
DS: Oh, we're highschool sweethearts. Its really cool to find someone you can hang out with for such a long time.
HBasian8: (laughs). She looks at me like who is this guy. She's pretty fucked up (buzzed/drunk)

I tell her how we got lost, and asks her where she's from - Glendale. The rest of it was just fluff. We leave and I make some outrageous comments about how the lights are turning off in the streets. I hug HBasian4or5, and her girl friend, and UGasian. Just being nice. Find out later HBasian8 is single.

Work On:
Give off Sexual and Friendly VIBE early on.
I really need to take a workshop with SIC or Charisma Arts.
I just realize I need feedback from real PUA's. So i'm going in blindly.
Don't be the goofy guy who dances with all the girls? Should I? He obviously doesn't get laid.
Hopefully there's more results next FR. keep you guys posted.

FR:Cingular Hired Gun - also brother's friend.

Okay...So i've been eyeing this hired gun at Cingular for awhile. I only talked to her twice. I find out that the first time I met her that, she knew my twin. Of course, my twin is the more popular with the ladies. Anyways, yesterday...I went in to see her because I wanted to change my plan. I was paying too much for one phone and I was the Family plan. Yeah it's a long story. I go in, and she's helping another customer. So I waited patiently, being cool and calm. She's done, of course she notices me already when I get in the door. Oh yeah she's cute. I give her a HGasian7.5

She looks at me,

HG - What? (with a smile)
DS - Dang..is that how you treat all your customers?
HG - Giggles...i'm just playing. What can I do for ya?
DS - Well, I want to know if I can change my phone plan.

So we go into this talk about the plan and crap...boring stuff. Her coworker starts asking me...
"Hey you're talking to her and staring in her eyes like you're in love with her."

DS - Almost...

She just smiles...and says nothing....Then her coworkers says to her, " Hey, you're staring at him like you're in love with him!" She turns around and laughs and makes a comment to her coworker. I don't remember what she said. I find that she's also Cambodian like me, I didn't realize it, so I ask if she's fluent in speaking Khmer (the Cambodian language). She says she has to be because of all the customers that come in. I'm thinking wow, good shit.

What I notice is that when I'm talking to her I change my tonality. I notice its my flirting voice - a little deeper than usual. Usually, its high pitched cause I'm always happy everywhere I go. That's my personality.

What sucked is that I didn't get her number. She told me her work schedule and how she closes everynight, except for monday and wednesday. I don't think she has a bf or seeing anyone cause she would have mentioned it, right? Regardless, I am going to do something about it next time I see her. I'm supposed to see her again for upgrading my phone.

FR: Bon Fire at Bolsa Chica

My natural friend, lets call him, J., He invites me to his bonfire. I was hoping there were more girls when I arrived. More cocks. Whatever. I just wanted to socially hangout more, so I can get over this anxiety crap. Well I arrive and he isn't even there at the beach, he had left for a couple minutes to grab some more wood. So I have time to kill and I get my blades out and start rollerblading to where he had described where the pit was. I didn't know anyone so I was lost. It was at tower 20. I looked around and tried to see if I saw anyone I knew. No one. So for fifteen minutes I just stood around thinking if I should call J. again. I didn't wanna bother him so much, but luckily I saw D. He was surprised that I was here, and I told him that J. had invited me so I walk with him to the pit where everyone was. There was only like five people there for now. Whatevers, I introduce myself and all, but really wasn't talking that much. I wanted to talk so much but just kept observing how people were interacting with each other.
Finally, J. came with his girl HB8. I was stoked to see him cause he was the only guy I knew that could make me feel comfortable around everyone. This guy just keeps talking about stuff...and people are really engaged in his conversations. Anyways, I kept quiet and smiled a lot to different statements people made. I was just laughing and smile for the cause of it. Because If I don't then I'll seem bored, which I was. The whole bonfire, I was quiet, until I got some alki in me. Yeah it loosened me up a bit.
We went to J. place with his roommates, and played some poker. I lost. One of my roommates, his sister came to town with her girl friend. The girl friend was freaking so into young guys. They were both in their thirties. I was seeing that my laid back and quiet attitude at the moment wasn't going anywhere. So i started talking a bit to the girls. Not really anything. Just practicing. Generic stuff like hey my name is...blah blah blah. Yeah, but I believe still had the talking stuff down..I just need to find things to connect with, relate, then reward her on it. I didn't try it. That was about it..nothing too spectular. The girl friend, show me her tan lines on her chest, I can totally see her nipples. Whatever its all good. Next time I'll be more outgoing and talkative. D. and J. are naturals..good stuff. What I like about them is that they keep their shit on the dl with girls they slept with or hooked up with at work. They don't brag about it. Good shit. Til then..another FR...no lay yet.

FR: El Torito

I finally decided to hang out tonigt with a buddy and his girl from work. Went to El Torito in Irvine, and wanted to work on my social skills with the group of friends that I didn't know. All of em were the gf's ex coworkers. Whatever. To my fucking surprise this HBasiancutie8 was there that I notice at work all the time. She was there with her bf who knew my friends gf through work...small world. I was pretty much laid back the whole night with my buddy. Got a couple of drinks so I wasn't feeling shy or anything its just I didn't have anything to say much because they were all friends. I was trying to find something I can relate to. I keep looking at the HBasiancutie8, she knows that I work with her...we're on differen't floors. I talked to her once in an elevator.

DS: Hey, how tall are you?
HBasiancutie8: (smiling) I'm 4'10"
DS: Cool... my exgirlfriend was that tall. (she really is).

At that time I was thinking to myself she gets that a lot. Anyways...I notice her looking at me everynow and then while her BF was there. I notice that she's really into her BF - making funny faces, and being affectionate towards him. I don't care kept on trying to talk to other girls in the group. HBlatina8 is getting loud and asking me what I'm planning to drink...I tell her "duh..water!"...jokingly. Well conversing with the group wasn't that all great..didn't really converse at all...with them, they were into each other too much. I should have introduced myself to everyone and have that warm vibe. Gotta work on that. I keep noticing the HBasiancutie8 looking at me...sometimes smiling? I'm not really sure, I felt she was trying not to look at me. Later that night as HBasiancutie8 left with her BF, she said by to everyone and me with a big smile..She's just really nice. I'll talk to her tomorrow at work and see where that goes.

Gotta Work On:
Warm Vibes with a Big Set.
More Talking to people like I know them.
Work on Calibration.
Social Anxiety.
Connect - Relate - Reward is a must to work on.